Do you wage war in your personal life in the name of peace?
It could have been in parenting, at work, in a family dispute with the in-laws or simply in a discussion over politics.
When you use hurtful words to stop conversation, you are missing an important part of the journey.
Insults often come from a feeling of insignificance within ourselves (ie: We want to matter!).
Some choose to feel significant by way of attacking another person so that person feels smaller or looks diminished in some way through our eyes. It doesn't work, and so sometimes people get meaner and perhaps gossip, judge, over-generalize, and even take the feeling for a walk to share on unsuspecting people via road rage or being rude to someone in service.
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| It is through the human connection where true understanding and tolerance begins. |
When we choose to feel significant in a more healthful way. Just as everything negative we do can create a domino effect of negativity in others, the same holds true for positive thought, inspiration and sharing.
Easier said than done, right?
There are no shortcuts to being a good human and it's not easy. But nothing worth anything is easy in this life. Before you proclaim, "You are an idiot!" perhaps instead ask, "Why do you feel this way?". Or, simply be quiet and listen...
Sometimes we feel too negative to share anything positive and that is a perfect time to find quiet space and just "be". Perhaps you can excuse yourself to the restroom, go sit in your car, or simply ask those around you softly if you can have a moment. Acknowledge your feelings and give them time from ... you.
Acting out by being louder, ruder, and more clever with insults is of course an easier way to get rid of aggression However, when a conversation stops because of hurtful shaming insults, you killed something inside everyone involved-including you.
Be Mindful.
Please share your stories, thoughts, comments, or advice.
